It is an unwritten law in all jobs, regardless of our position or industry will have to live with different kinds of people.
Not all will be our pleasure, even some may hinder our performance, however, we can get more positive things if we focus on controlling our emotions and accept that they are part of working life.
According to a survey of more than 1500 professionals, Work Environment is one of the most important factors for the welfare at work, so when this part of our professional life is problematic, its effects can go beyond the office and affect our personal lives.
We give you 6 tips for dealing with difficult co-workers and prevent their actions impact your performance:
1) Identify the nature
Before facing a toxic coworker is necessary to understand what their behavior and what seeks to achieve with them. Here are some common examples:
-Bio: A person who takes possession of the conversations and meetings together, imposes its views and less those of others. It has a high sense of competence and has no scruples to act with guile to achieve their goals.
-Informal: A classic office and its main feature is that it does not respect delivery times, responds to requests with no chance, not on time to meetings, etc..
-Gossip: We’ve all met a co-worker whose main activity seems to be spreading information about other people. Sometimes he acts as ‘official spy’ to your boss or supervisor and inform like irrelevant details or information that harms others.
-Disqualifying: Is the typical colleague who seem never to agree with your suggestions or ideas. Be devoted to disqualify in private or in public.
-Loose: One of the worst coworkers is he or she simply does not perform his activities or does poorly. The consequences, of course affect the work of the whole team.
-Handler: One of the most astute and harmful. Most have an excellent relationship with your boss or Human Resources and also has some of the above features.
It is important to know that most of these attitudes are linked with people inside have very low self esteem and insecurity. They use these behaviors to make life miserable for others and feel less dissatisfied with themselves.
2) Analyze whether the problem is with you
A key to reverse the effect that we produce a colleague harmful is to identify whether the aggression is just against us or is a regular behavior with other team members.
When it comes to the second scenario is easier to address the conflict, because no doubt there will be other students who share their anger and can take action on the matter collectively, discussing the problem with your line manager, for example.
But if the attack is personal, you have to focus on analyzing what happens, how it affects you and how to respond intelligently to the attacks.
3) Neutralize your emotions
Perhaps this is the most difficult part of the process. It is normal to feel attacked when a co-worker is rude or hurtful behavior, however, the key to dealing with the situation is to protect your self-esteem and not let that person make you lose control of your emotions.
To strengthen you think about the qualities that make a good employee, recalls the positive feedback you gave your boss and the good results you achieved. Then get ready for action. Remember to stop a person who harassed you should take action on the matter.
4) Do not put off
A couple of hostile attitudes are enough to act. The longer you wait to put a stop to an annoying colleague will cost more work to master the situation. When we allow people to upset for a long period of time, the anger and frustration build up, and this person gains ground on our mood. No act is like telling that person that it is right to treat us that way.
It may be that the first time someone made you feel attacked or uncomfortable with his attitude will ‘paralyze’ but it is important to analyze and act immediately.
When a colleague goes too far with his harassment can be a victim of mobbing tell you how to deal with!
5) Avoid complaining to others
Instead of making your problems sharing a snowball with every partner how much you angry attitude ‘Juanito’ ideally in person face it directly.
Discuss with others what happened you can make a person seem whiny and problematic. Thought about others can resolve your situation? What Good Does It Tell him the whole office Laurita bad attitudes?
If speaking directly not resolve the dispute, the appropriate person to discuss your immediate boss, with confidentiality and only if the attitudes of your companion directly affect work.
6) Beware the counterattack
Reacting aggressively to malicious behavior is most common and is what awaits the aggressor! When we respond with anger feed the power to the other person, because we do see all the power that their words and actions to get us out of our boxes.
On the contrary when we have the ability to respond with kindness and aggression calm, the assailant is unarmed because not allow to take control of the situation and give in to his provocation. This is an attitude that the harasser is not expected surprise him!
Manage your own emotions and reactions is always the smartest way to control an annoying companion. Focus more on you and less of him or her and observes the results.
